What is Success to YOU?

People tell us what we should be doing all the time. But oftentimes we fail to honestly ask ourselves whether those align with what we’re chasing. As individuals, we should evaluate every piece of advice we get, every opportunity we’re given, and every dream we decide to chase after with one question: 

What does a life well lived mean to me?

Not to your parents, teachers, friends, or mentors, but to you in your specific season of life with your specific talents, passions, and interests.

Yeah they’re telling you to put your head down and study, or go out and practice, or chase this career path, or do that savings method, but do they know your main goal? Because most of the time their advice is great and should be followed! But how can you make sure it’s pushing you towards the life you actually want to be living? If you don’t answer this question, the default will likely be to chase after society’s version of success: accomplishment and accumulation.

You’ll embark consciously or subconsciously on the journey of accomplishing more: getting to next grade level in school, graduating, and climbing ladders. Or accumulating more: getting more money, more followers, and more things.

And don’t get me wrong, the pursuit of money, prestige, etc. isn’t wrong, it just depends on your motivation for doing it. If you don’t have a reason for getting that money, getting into that target school, or getting into that top company that’s larger than just doing it because it’s a “good” thing to do, then your finish line will never stop moving backwards. 

No matter how successful you get or how much you chase whatever you’re chasing, if it’s out of fear and not love, if it’s to prove yourself instead of share yourself, then you’ll never have peace of mind and fulfillment.

Cynthia

And what is success without peace and fulfillment? 

I believe we find fulfillment when we strive with our purpose in mind. I believe the most fulfilling thing is to live knowing that It’s. All. About. The. People. 

“Success isn’t about how much money you make; it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.”

Michelle Obama

That’s why I go to school everyday. That’s the ultimate reason I strive and work and learn. It’s to interact with others, to serve others, and to make money so that I can serve myself and the people I love.

It’s all about the people because the people are the channels that God has placed in our lives for fulfillment. They’re how we glorify God and showcase true Christianity. They’re how we find joy and peace. 

So what are some ways you can live this out?

  1. Set boundaries on your work.
  2. Put up your missions, goals, and purpose where you’ll see them constantly.
  3. Be open to interruptions and inconveniences, those are sometimes our best opportunities. 
    1. “… Small moments, over time, stack into something much bigger than ourselves. One tiny risk, one inconvenience, one imperceptible nudge after another, and here we are, thick in community… I couldn’t have imagined the way this basic act of really being with the people near us would seep through lives like fresh air and impossible beauty.” – Shannan Martin, The Ministry of Ordinary Places
  4. Say no to the good and yes to the best.
    1. We touched on this a lot last week!
    2. ” Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” – John D. Rockefeller
  5. Freely express your love to the people in your life. Oh come on, you knew I’d say this 😀

There are so many more ways to integrate this mindset of living for the people, but that will be personal. And I want you to find how you best implement that. So to wrap it up, as always, reach out to me if you ever need someone to talk to. I’m here for you.

-Cynthia

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