Be the Man in The Arena: Get Off The Sidelines

Recently I put my heart and back into something and it failed.

I’m low key devastated and disappointed. 

Isn’t this what we all fear? What holds back so many of us?

What if I told you I feel more alive right now than when I never try? In light of how short life is, failure might just be the safest path to having no regrets.

You’ll move on from failure and get back up again. But before you do, let’s take a moment to reflect on the gift it was : )

  1. The opportunity you had and failed at says a lot about how fortunate you are. A lot of people never have that opportunity in the first place.
  2. How you act/present/talk on the final day when it matters (whether that be the election, the exam, or championship) won’t be ideal. It will go just as your practice goes. So if you want it to be perfect, you know what to do, practice really does make perfect!
  3. Be proud of yourself for stepping outside of your comfort zone!
  4. “All effort, even failed effort, produces muscle.” – Do Hard Things
  5. Maybe you’ve learned about a new weakness you have that you can develop. Now you have this opportunity to become even more well-rounded!
  6. Over half the battle is just deciding to get in the game, to run in the election, to take that hard class.
  7. When it’s finally time, don’t rush it. Live out the full moment.
  8. You will grow and become qualified for more, but you don’t need to be qualified right now for everything. So as long as you’re pushing yourself you can rest and be satisfied with your failure. You’ll put forth your full effort and get back up again.
  9. You’ve gotten awesome experiences just practicing and preparing for this. All those practice meetings, days of studying, recitals and rehearsals may not have been enjoyable 100% of the time but they too are a gift.
  10. Most Importantly: You aren’t living life halfway. Because at the end of the day, what does it matter if you try and fail in front of everyone? When you’re on your deathbed you’ll regret what you haven’t done, not what you tried your best at and failed.

You gave it your all in the game of life and boy is that the best feeling ever! It’s a million times better than sitting on the proverbial sidelines and perpetually wondering. 

What if?

Instead you did something outside of your comfort zone. And now you’re a better person for it, you’re stronger for your next challenge.

Even though you fell you’ve gotten back up. So be that type of person that tried again (even if it’s not in the same specific endeavor). And you’ll join that special group of people that weren’t the fragile perfects. You’ll join that group of people that failed and got back up again and are therefore more powerful than those that never failed. 

-Cynthia


The Man in The Arena

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Theodore Roosevelt

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